Stay in the Bath | Katie Mae Webb

The fire alarm was going off,

the baby was crying,

and I stayed in the bath.

Don’t worry, my husband was home and making dinner.

I was relaxing in my bath when the smoke alarm started going off and scared the baby so naturally she started to scream.

I instantly started to get out of the tub to go “help”,

when suddenly.... I stopped myself.

What am I really going to do here?

If I go out to “help”, I’ll end up cutting my bath short,

lunge head first into chaos,

take over the screaming baby,

while we try and fan out the smoke from the kitchen.

Would that really be helpful?

Was this something that required me?

Was this something he could handle alone?

What if I stayed in the bath?

What if he,

fanned the smoke,

and comforted the baby,

all without my “help”?!

That’s exactly what happened.

I stayed in my bath,

he conquered the chaos,

and when I got out of the bath,

I made sure to tell him “I knew you had it under control babe!”

and we laughed about it.

Ladies,

he got to experience a win here too.

He got the message from me that I have confidence in him.

He got to comfort our daughter.

He got to stop the fire alarm all at once.

Sometimes we are so busy trying to help,

we end up placing the full responsibility of our family on our shoulders.

We unintentionally send our guys the message that we do not have confidence in their abilities,

meanwhile we find ourselves asking things like,

“why doesn’t he take more initiative in the home?”

“Why does it all fall on me?!”

We aren’t supposed to be the only one taking initiative,

taking responsibility.

There’s two people in the marriage,

there’s two people raising these kids.

Sometimes the best thing we can do,

the best way to truly help,

is stay in the bath.