“As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live.” – Johan Wolfgang Von Goethe
How many times have you said no to an opportunity because you didn't feel confident enough? How many times have you not applied for that dream job or gone after that promotion because you didn't think you were qualified? Perhaps you waited several years before finally starting a business because you didn't trust yourself to be successful. (Or maybe you're still waiting).
We've all been there. Self-doubt is a natural part of the human condition. But what if I told you that the only way to break through self-imposed limitations is by learning to trust yourself?
One of the biggest obstacles we face as women is impostor syndrome - feeling like we're not good enough or that we're frauds. Studies have shown that nearly 75% of women will experience impostor syndrome at some point in their lives, and 81% believe they put more pressure on themselves not to fail than men do.
So what exactly is impostor syndrome? It's a psychological phenomenon in which people doubt their accomplishments and feel like they're living a lie. It's often characterized by perfectionism, fear of failure, and constant self-criticism. Imposter syndrome can be crippling and cause people to self-sabotage or hold themselves back from going after their dreams.
The first step to overcoming imposter syndrome is recognizing it for what it is - an irrational belief system that's holding you back from achieving your full potential. Second, you have to start trusting yourself. This means making a conscious effort to silence your inner critic, setting boundaries so you can recharge and reenergize, and speaking kindly to yourself. Remember, you are your own worst critic. So be gentle with yourself and show yourself some grace.
When you learn to trust yourself and silence your inner critic, your entire life will begin to transform. You will elevate in every area - both personal and professional. You'll become more confident and decisive. You'll stop procrastinating and start taking massive action towards your goals.
You'll find that you begin to attract better, healthier, and stronger relationships while opportunities constantly become present in your life. In short, trusting yourself will allow you break through the self-imposed limitations you've cast upon yourself and achieve the success you dream of - and on your own terms.
One of the best ways to build self trust, is to build self awareness. To build self awareness, it is mission critical to spend time with yourself - getting to know the REAL you. What hidden skills are buried beneath your endless to do list? What amazing and creative ideas are desperately trying to show themselves - but can't seem to break through your already crammed schedule?
If you are constantly doing ALL the things, you will have very little time to spend with yourself.
As women, we tend to wear many hats - wife, mother, daughter, sister, friend, employee/boss...the list goes on. And while there's nothing wrong with being a multi-faceted woman, sometimes we need to learn how to delegate so we can focus on our top priorities. Oftentimes, we try to do everything ourselves because we don't think anyone else will do it as well as we can - or because we don't want to burden others with our problems. But this type of thinking only leads to burnout and resentment.
"Deciding what NOT to do is as important as deciding what TO do." - Jessica Jackley
Say NO to the things you don't want to do. Delegate tasks at home and at work so you can focus on the tasks you LIKE to do - and the one's your good at. Take advantage of that white space you create through the power of "NO" and spend some quality time with yourself - unplug from technology, disconnect from social media, and stop telling everyone YES. Listen to your thoughts, focus on your breathing, and be present in the moment.
"I can't do this"
"This is too hard"
"I'm not good enough"
These are all negative thoughts that limit our potential and prevent us from achieving our goals. If we want to change our lives, we have to change our thoughts. Next time you find yourself thinking something negative, stop and question it. Is it true? Is it helpful? Is it necessary? If the answer is no to any of those questions, let the thought go and replace it with a positive one. For example:
"I can do this"
"This is a challenge that I'm excited to overcome"
"I am smart/talented/capable/worthy".
Now that you've established self-awareness and started changing your negative thoughts, it's time to start choosing your thoughts wisely. Be intentional about what you allow yourself to think about. If a thought doesn't serve you or make you feel good, let it go. Fill your mind with positive, empowering thoughts instead. When you choose your thoughts wisely, everything in your life will change - including your relationships, your career, and your decision-making skills.
Trusting yourself requires dedication and discipline but it is so worth it! When you trust yourself, doors will open up that you never even knew existed. You will find strength that you never knew you had and courage to take risks that you never would have taken before. Your life will transform in ways that you never thought possible. When you make a conscious effort to silence the inner critic and show yourself some grace, amazing things will start happening in your life. You will become limitless.
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